Sunday, August 31, 2014
How my life has changed since I started giving...
A few weeks ago, I noticed a huge amount of people posting on facebook about donations. I'm not sure if those types of posts have always been there and I just now noticed, or if it is a new trend. I'll be completely honest. When I first saw these coming across my newsfeed, I thought what I'm sure a lot of people think...
This isn't for people like me...
This is for rich people...
I can barely afford to feed my family, what makes these people think that I can just hand out money to their gofundme account...?
This isn't for people like me...
This is for rich people...
I can barely afford to feed my family, what makes these people think that I can just hand out money to their gofundme account...?
But then, I saw a post from a friend that said, "What if you just donate $1.."
I decided that I would.
I decided that I would.
But not this paycheck! I will one day though.. I promise!
It wasn't until I saw that that very friend who had her own gofundme decided to donate all her donations to another friend, that was when I finally realized that it was time. It was time for me to open my heart like she had done.
My very first form of giving was at church. I decided that I would finally tithe. I had the same opinions on tithing as I did on donating to gofundme. I thought it was only for the rich. My 10% at the time was only $15! However, I gave.
Fast forward to later that week, our washing machine gave out. We called a mechanic that came out to assess the damage. He said we would be better off buying a new machine. As previously mentioned, we were only clearing about $150 a week at the time. There was no way we could afford that. I started shopping around and mentioned my issue to my mom. She said, "Oh! Your brother has a brand new machine just sitting in our shop! You can have it!"
It was like a miracle!
Fast forward two days later, Joel had already given up looking for work and decided we would just continue to do what we were doing. We would have to continue to struggle but him quitting school wouldn't be an option for us. Out of nowhere, he got a phone call. He was offered the postion at Coca Cola he had been turned down for a few weeks ago. This meant a DOUBLE in annual salary for us! My first concern, however, was about the kids' insurance. I was afraid they would lose their government provided insurance with Joel's change in salary. I called them and they said that the children would still be covered and we could choose whichever insurance we wanted for them.
In one week, we had 3 things that helped us financially. I knew right then that I had to keep giving.
Call it karma, call it a blessing from God, but whatever you call it, IT IS WORKING for me.
Call it karma, call it a blessing from God, but whatever you call it, IT IS WORKING for me.
Since then, I have continued to give. I've given to church regularly, as well as two other extremely good causes. One of them is for my friend Zee whom is trying to afford life changing surgery. The other is the woman that was donated the other funds from my friend. I knew if it was that important to my friend, it must really mean something. She is a mother trying to afford a vehicle for her family. I'm linking both of these below.
Just as my friend said,
"What if you just give $1?"
"What if you just give $1?"
My weight loss journey- Starting March 5 2014
My weight loss journey
Everyone that has seen me recently has taken notice in how much weight I've lost. I'm going to try to update this post regularly and keep updating. So far, I've lost 42lbs. I really take pride in the fact I can say I've done it by just eating healthy and going to the gym. I haven't used any wraps, pills, or quick fix methods. I cut way back on carbs, count calories, only drink water, and limit my sugar intake. I've been doing a lot of cardio, mostly on the elliptical, but plan to start doing more toning and weight training as I'm getting closer to my goal.
When I started I wore a size 20. I'm currently in a size 10-12.
When I started I wore a size 20. I'm currently in a size 10-12.
When I started I was 230lbs. I'm currently 188lbs.
Here's a look back at how I've changed so far...
Christian's 5th Birthday Party-FROZEN THEME!
Ian's Farm Themed 2nd Birthday Party
Farmer Ian turns 2!
Ian's 2nd birthday was a cold one! We were very glad that we chose to have it indoors.
His cupcakes turned out exactly as I had hoped. My dad had his friend make them for the party.
The other decorations and favors came together nicely as well. We had little carrot candy and carrot thank you bags. Ian's Yaya made the yellow piggy pinata. We used Easter grass on the table to give it a cool look. Below the punch bowl, we had an assortment of farm animals.
I can't believe my baby is seriously 2 years old! Where, oh where, has the time gone?
DIY Fix-It-Felix Jr
Halloween 2013
I
remember when I found out I was pregnant, I thought about being one of
those moms that home made everything from scratch. That thought didn't
last long! I laughed at the very idea because I knew that I was far from
handy OR crafty. Well, look at me now!
There
were several posts on Pinterest with DIY Fix it Felix and a couple for
Wreck it Ralph but none that had everything I wanted to accomplish. I'm
going to try to break it down as best as I can since I didn't really
take pictures while I was making it. Please visit This Post to view DIY Wreck it Ralph.
Fix it Felix Jr.
Supplies and Cost
Fix it Felix was a cheap and easy DIY project but it was a bit tedious. The first thing I got was the shirt,
for $12 at Children's Place, and the boots were $10 at Walmart. I got
long sleeved because if it's cold I can roll the sleeves down. I figured
those items he'll be able to wear again as well! He already had jeans,
hammer, and the hat, which was a bit off color but I think it still
looks good. I bought a blue bandana from Hobby Lobby for 69 cents. The
belt buckle was about a dollar and the strap that I used for the belt
was a dollar a yard (I only needed 1 yard). I bought a canvas pouch that
would tie around the waist, also at Hobby Lobby, for $2. Finally, I got
a piece of yellow felt for 23 cents at Walmart, some white puffy paint
for $2, and gold spray paint for about $6. If you're still adding, I'll
help you out! That totals $34.92. If you exclude the fact that I would
have bought the shirt and boots anyway since he can wear them all
fall/winter, that's only 12.92!! This tiger costume I had considered is $37 on Amazon BEFORE shipping. I think I did pretty good!
How I did it
The hat: Felt
cut out the Fix it Felix logo (as best as I could!) hand sewn on in the
corners so I can later take it off and reuse the hat.
The belt: The belt was made from a strap I got at Hobby Lobby. All I did was attach the buckle by folding it around and under and hand sewing it in place. I made the hole where I wanted it using a small screwdriver. I then cut the pockets from the canvas pouch I got at Hobby Lobby. I cut them down a lot because the full sized pocket was way too big for his little legs! I sewed around the edge with a zig zag stitch to prevent fraying and sewed them in place on the belt. I also used an extra strip of the strap to make a hammer holder. I hand stitched it on but looking back, I could have done it much faster with the machine.
The patch: I typed up the font on the computer and printed it out. I then cut a single layer from the bandana. It is thin enough you can see the font through the bandana when you place the paper underneath. I didn't bother trying to trace it, I went straight at it with the puffy paint and it turned out GREAT! I then sewed the patch to a square of canvas (leftover from the pouch for the pockets). I sewed using a tight zigzag stitch and did it in the oval shape like I wanted. I didn't do it perfect. At all. I've only been sewing for about a month and usually straight lines. Don't stress over it. I then cut it out along the edge and hand sewed it on the shirt. I got lucky and had a thread that was EXACT to the bandana color so you couldn't see how little I actually sewed and how spacey it was. I wanted to be able to cut it off and reuse the shirt later.
The belt: The belt was made from a strap I got at Hobby Lobby. All I did was attach the buckle by folding it around and under and hand sewing it in place. I made the hole where I wanted it using a small screwdriver. I then cut the pockets from the canvas pouch I got at Hobby Lobby. I cut them down a lot because the full sized pocket was way too big for his little legs! I sewed around the edge with a zig zag stitch to prevent fraying and sewed them in place on the belt. I also used an extra strip of the strap to make a hammer holder. I hand stitched it on but looking back, I could have done it much faster with the machine.
The patch: I typed up the font on the computer and printed it out. I then cut a single layer from the bandana. It is thin enough you can see the font through the bandana when you place the paper underneath. I didn't bother trying to trace it, I went straight at it with the puffy paint and it turned out GREAT! I then sewed the patch to a square of canvas (leftover from the pouch for the pockets). I sewed using a tight zigzag stitch and did it in the oval shape like I wanted. I didn't do it perfect. At all. I've only been sewing for about a month and usually straight lines. Don't stress over it. I then cut it out along the edge and hand sewed it on the shirt. I got lucky and had a thread that was EXACT to the bandana color so you couldn't see how little I actually sewed and how spacey it was. I wanted to be able to cut it off and reuse the shirt later.
Only do one layer of paint.
(Doing more will cause it to remain tacky and not dry properly)
Don't paint it on a plate
(It will stick and pull off the paint which will make you do MORE layers)
Let it dry overnight before touching
(Or you'll get fingerprints)
Don't let them play with the hammer until halloween
(they'll pound the paint right off)
(Doing more will cause it to remain tacky and not dry properly)
Don't paint it on a plate
(It will stick and pull off the paint which will make you do MORE layers)
Let it dry overnight before touching
(Or you'll get fingerprints)
Don't let them play with the hammer until halloween
(they'll pound the paint right off)
Now,
with all that being said, I ended up having to buy another hammer and
start all over. Luckily, big lots had a tool kit for $7 which they will
play with again and again. This new hammer had a little hole in the
bottom and I put a small screwdriver in it to hold it while I spray
painted it and then blow dried it on low cool for about 10 minutes and
then propped it up to dry overnight.
Well,
I think that about covers it! I have decided against the gloves since
it'll be enough fight for him to keep the hat on and not throw the
hammer. I hope you all enjoy! Please visit This Link for Wreck it Ralph DIY.
DIY Wreck-it-Ralph
Halloween 2013 Part 2
I had originally planned on having Wreck it Ralph and Fix it Felix all in one post but Fix it Felix was pretty tedious and required a rather large post. Please Click here to view the Fix it Felix DIY blog post.
DIY Wreck it Ralph
Supplies and Cost
After doing Fix it Felix, this one was a breeze! First thing's first, I had to find a pair of overalls. That was the hardest part! I ended up getting these from a friend for FREE. They're size 24 months. This is my 4 and a half year old son. He typically wears a size 5. They were too short but I was cutting them off at the bottom anyway so it didn't matter. Keep that in mind if you can't find any in the size you need. Then I got: a hunter green tshirt ($4 at walmart), an orange tshirt($4 at walmart), 3 buttons(already had), dark brown RIT dye($2.50 at walmart)for the overalls, a light blue sharpie, and a red sharpie(73 cents each). If you're still adding, I'll help you out! That totals $11.95. Consider the fact he'll wear the hunter green shirt again and that brings it down to $7.95! This ninja turtle he'd also considered is nearly $40! I saved a TON of money on this one. Even if you had to purchase the overalls, you're still coming out much cheaper with this DIY project than the typical cost of a costume.
How I did it
The overalls: The ones I bought
were khaki colored so it wasn't very difficult to go darker. If I had
bought blue jean ones I would have bleached them first. I dyed in the
washer and had great results. I cut the strap off the back so it
wouldn't dangle down and bother him and I cut the bottoms to give them a
frayed look. I did all cutting before the dying/washing process so it
gave it a more tattered look. I also jagged up the knees a bit and cut
the pockets off that were on them. After all that, I hand sewed down the
front because it naturally wanted to stay up, not flop over like it
should. It only took a couple stitches.
The shirts: The
hunter green shirt goes underneath with no editing necessary. I did
roll up the sleeves since the orange shirt sleeves are cut, so you
couldn't see the green at the sleeve. The orange shirt I cut a jagged
sleeve and I cut the neck to give it that v-neck look. I then hand sewed
on the buttons to make it look like they were really a part of the
shirt. It looks really good, I think! To do the plaid, I drew light blue
lines like checkerboard pattern and then lightly colored in the top row
with the red. I didn't do it very thick or heavy and didn't fill it in
completely. This gave it the plaid color look of Wreck it Ralph's shirt.
It wasn't necessary to color the bottom row as it's covered by the
overalls.
That's it!
No, really. That's really it! I threw in a
little hair gel and spiked his hair up. I will probably let him wear
flip flops when we trick or treat for safety but for halloween costumes
(in our church) I'll just let him run barefooted. Be sure to check out
the DIY Fix it Felix Blog Post!!
Forcing a child to take a picture with Santa
We are teaching them that they can't say no when people want to touch them...
Trust
me, I know this may seem extreme to some of you but really, follow me
here. We're trying to look at this from a child's point of view. All
your child knows is, "I don't like the looks of this guy. He is a
stranger. I don't want to go near him". As a parent it is your job to
teach your child that NOBODY is allowed to touch them without their
permission. When your child is afraid of Santa, they're essentially
saying that they don't want to touch Santa and do not want Santa
touching them. We should give them that respect. What if someone bigger
and stronger than you forced you to sit in a strange man's lap?
We are teaching them that we don't respect their fears...
Think
about your biggest fear. What are you most afraid of? Spiders? Mice?
Closed spaces? Snakes? Losing your child? Now imaging someone forcing
this on you. Covering you in spiders, if that's your fear. Locking you
in a closet if you're afraid of closed spaces...etc. Your child's fear,
in this situation, is being held down to sit with this big, hairy
stranger. It may seem silly to you, but there are people out there that
probably think your fear is silly. That doesn't make your fear any less
terrifying. That doesn't make it okay to subject you to your fear. As a
parent, you're supposed to protect your child. If a loud noise frightens
them, you hug them close and tell them it's okay. It is no different
when they're afraid of Santa. Respect their fears, you would want
someone to respect yours.
We are teaching them to blindly follow directions...
This
often rubs parents the wrong way. I know I hear parents all the time
say, "Because I said so, that's why!" What does a child learn from that
statement? I try to always explain to my children why I'm telling them
to do something. Teaching your child to follow directions without ever
questioning why can be dangerous. A friend, who asked to remain
anonymous, shared her story with me. She told me that for years her
grandfather molested her. He told her she had to do what he said. He
told her that she should respect her elders and that she should follow
directions or she would get in trouble. As an adult, she looks back and
wishes she would have said no and told someone sooner. However, she had
always been told to follow directions and not to question them. She
thought she was doing the right thing. I know it can get exhausting
hearing your child ask, "why" all day long. But appreciate that they are
learning about the world around them. They are learning boundaries.
They are learning that they can question authority, because sometimes
even people that they're supposed to listen to, may tell them to do
something they shouldn't have to do. When you're telling your child to
sit on a stranger's lap, to "sit still and smile!", you're teaching them
much more than you may have intended to.
But.. it's a tradition!
What exactly is the
tradition? Having a really nice Christmas picture made every year?
That's great! That sounds like a wonderful tradition. Why does it have
to include Santa? Will you stop the tradition when your child stops
believing in Santa? There are TONS of other options for Christmas photos
that don't include Santa. Pinterest has lots of ideas! Is it really a
nice picture when the child has puffy red eyes and tears streaming down
their face? Is your obligatory photo really worth your child's sense of
safety and security?
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